PRE-OPERATIVE
We arrived from London in West Palm Beach on Thursday night, and Daniel had his pre-operative appointment at St Mary's Medical Center on Friday afternoon. We thought it was a short appointment with Dr Paley but it was actually an afternoon of appointments.
First was all the standard checks with the nursing team. Daniel was pretty good, probably as a result of his hospital visits after the febrile convulsion episodes (another story but just some more stress for Mum and Dad!). He was NOT HAPPY about drawing blood from his finger though. The nurses were great and managed to calm him down with biscuits and ice lollies. Max enjoyed an ice-lolly too, although half his face was stained bright orange.
Next stop was the anesthetist who ran through the process and explained that Daniel would have an epidural during and for a couple of days after the surgery to manage the pain. He also said that if Daniel developed a cold over the weekend we would have to cancel the surgery. I had a cold at the time so I spent the weekend stressing that Daniel would catch it and the surgery would be cancelled, apparently a common scenario. I tried to keep a germ free distance from Daniel which was really hard because all I really wanted to do is cuddle him lots.
Next stop was x-ray. Daniel was pretty tired by then and started being very hyperactive running around and laughing hysterically. He wasn't too happy about having the x-rays though, Max and I could hear the yelling down the hallway.
Our next appointment was with Dr Paley and his PA (Physicians Assistant) where they reviewed his x-ray and MRI. The good news was that Daniel's knee is stable so he didn't not need the Superknee procedure. The bad news was that there was only a 75% chance that the hip surgery would be successful compared to the usual 99% because the femoral ball had fused to the socket and there is a chance that it could re-fuse post surgery. We also found out that the surgery could be about 9 hours and he would likely need a blood transfusion. Scary stuff.
Our final appointment was a blood test at the laboratory which we postponed until the next day as by this time it was 6:30pm and we had been up since 4am suffering jet lag so we were exhausted. The blood test was not much fun for anyone. Shane had to hold Daniel down with him screaming as two nurses took his blood. I was holding back tears, it is just so unfair that my little boy has to go through this at such a young age. He was really funny though. The nurse asked him who Daniel Rigby was and he pointed at Max. He then told her to do Max first. Poor little Max, he had no idea what was going on. Daniel talked a lot about squeezing his arm and taking blood, pretending to do it to Mummy and Mickey Mouse. Not a typical imaginative play scenario for a 2 year old!
So at the end of the day, both boys asleep in the back of the car, Shane and I drove back to the hotel feeling very emotionally drained and very overwhelmed. We knew that we were doing the best we could, we were having the best possible surgeon in the world perform the surgery. We needed to focus on that to get through the next few days. We were just hoping that Daniel stayed healthy over the weekend so the surgery could go ahead so our little boy didn't have to go through all this again. I don't know if our nerves would have coped with it either.
The night before Daniel's surgery we all went out for an early dinner at a family restaurant. Daniel was really well behaved and very cute which made tears well up in my eyes especially when Shane told him to say to me, "I'll be okay Mummy". How was I going to get through this? As for any parent, I just had to.
First was all the standard checks with the nursing team. Daniel was pretty good, probably as a result of his hospital visits after the febrile convulsion episodes (another story but just some more stress for Mum and Dad!). He was NOT HAPPY about drawing blood from his finger though. The nurses were great and managed to calm him down with biscuits and ice lollies. Max enjoyed an ice-lolly too, although half his face was stained bright orange.
Next stop was the anesthetist who ran through the process and explained that Daniel would have an epidural during and for a couple of days after the surgery to manage the pain. He also said that if Daniel developed a cold over the weekend we would have to cancel the surgery. I had a cold at the time so I spent the weekend stressing that Daniel would catch it and the surgery would be cancelled, apparently a common scenario. I tried to keep a germ free distance from Daniel which was really hard because all I really wanted to do is cuddle him lots.
Next stop was x-ray. Daniel was pretty tired by then and started being very hyperactive running around and laughing hysterically. He wasn't too happy about having the x-rays though, Max and I could hear the yelling down the hallway.
Our next appointment was with Dr Paley and his PA (Physicians Assistant) where they reviewed his x-ray and MRI. The good news was that Daniel's knee is stable so he didn't not need the Superknee procedure. The bad news was that there was only a 75% chance that the hip surgery would be successful compared to the usual 99% because the femoral ball had fused to the socket and there is a chance that it could re-fuse post surgery. We also found out that the surgery could be about 9 hours and he would likely need a blood transfusion. Scary stuff.
Our final appointment was a blood test at the laboratory which we postponed until the next day as by this time it was 6:30pm and we had been up since 4am suffering jet lag so we were exhausted. The blood test was not much fun for anyone. Shane had to hold Daniel down with him screaming as two nurses took his blood. I was holding back tears, it is just so unfair that my little boy has to go through this at such a young age. He was really funny though. The nurse asked him who Daniel Rigby was and he pointed at Max. He then told her to do Max first. Poor little Max, he had no idea what was going on. Daniel talked a lot about squeezing his arm and taking blood, pretending to do it to Mummy and Mickey Mouse. Not a typical imaginative play scenario for a 2 year old!
So at the end of the day, both boys asleep in the back of the car, Shane and I drove back to the hotel feeling very emotionally drained and very overwhelmed. We knew that we were doing the best we could, we were having the best possible surgeon in the world perform the surgery. We needed to focus on that to get through the next few days. We were just hoping that Daniel stayed healthy over the weekend so the surgery could go ahead so our little boy didn't have to go through all this again. I don't know if our nerves would have coped with it either.
The night before Daniel's surgery we all went out for an early dinner at a family restaurant. Daniel was really well behaved and very cute which made tears well up in my eyes especially when Shane told him to say to me, "I'll be okay Mummy". How was I going to get through this? As for any parent, I just had to.
THE SURGERY
We arrived at the hospital at 6am. Daniel woke up coughing which worried us a bit. He was in a great mood which made me feel worse because he had no idea what was coming. The anesthetist was not too worried about the cough and said that they would just have to monitor it during and after the surgery.
We sat in a waiting area for about 10 hours, reading magazines and trashy novels and taking turns to take Max for walks outside. I wouldn't have thought it but the knot that had been in my stomach for days had eased off a bit. It has been similar to waiting for a big exam. The nerves before are a lot worse than the actual exam. A couple of times someone on the surgical team would come out and give us updates. We also saw Dr Paley three times, once on his way to the theatre, once after he finished the internal work and once after the external fixator was put on. He was pleased with the result and didn't think the hip and femur would re-fuse which was fantastic news.
At about 5pm, we were taken through to the recovery waiting area by one of Dr Paley's PAs. We were able to catch a glimpse of Daniel as they drove him past to recovery. It was almost an hour before we were able to go in though because afterwards we learnt that Daniel had spiked a fever and was having trouble breathing. We were eventually allowed in one at a time. It was a pretty stressful time.
Once he was getting enough oxygen, they transferred him to the Intensive Care Unit. The poor thing had to have his arms restrained because he kept trying to pull out his IV and pull off the oxygen mask. I stayed with him overnight. He was given a drug throughout the night to reduce the inflammation in his throat caused by having a breathing tube in for so long during surgery. By the morning, he was breathing normally so we could transfer to the normal ward. Daniel had a sudden spurt of energy in the morning, probably a side effect from one of the many drugs he was on. I was given about 15 different drug information sheets which was slightly scary. Daniel started climbing up the bed and telling Shane that he wanted to put his shoes on and go home. He also broke his epidural, his pain relief for the next 2 days!
POST SURGERY
Daniel stayed in hospital for the next two nights. He spent most of the time sleeping or watching television or being poked or prodded by doctors or nurses. The worst was the 5am blood test!
Day 2 - Looking better (fewer tubes at least!)
The physios came around on the third day to get him out of bed into the stroller so he could play in the playroom and I took him for a couple of walks outside.
For the first few days when we got back home (hotel substituting for home), Daniel was pretty withdrawn, not like the Daniel we know. He spent most of the day in bed and we would take him in out in the pram to get out but he would just sit there quietly looking sad.
Over the next two weeks he started to improve and we started to see the old Daniel. He still had quite a bit of pain and could only be in one position for a short period of time before it started to hurt again. He also started to crawl a bit. We were lucky enough to meet another Australian in the park one day before the surgery who has two children of similar age. Daniel really enjoyed visiting them and playing with their toys - it was the best therapy and really helped to distract him from the pain. (Thanks Hayley, Finn and Avalon!)
We visited Quantum House on our last night. Quantum House is similar to Ronald McDonald House, a caring place to call home for families whose children are having hospital treatment where each night a different charity group cook dinner for all the residents. Daniel and Max really enjoyed playing in the playroom and we were able to meet some other children with fixators. We are hoping to stay there for some of the Daniel's first lengthening procedure.
The worst thing we have to do is the pin-site cleaning. Every day we have to clean the pin sites where the metal rods on the external fixator enter the skin to avoid pin site infections. Daniel has six pin sites. Shane (my hero) has taken on this job while I try to stop Daniel moving and calm him down. Bandages are wrapped around each pin site which have to be removed, the pin site cleaned (or scraped if there is dead material) and the bandages re-wrapped. Daniel sobs through the whole process, crying, "Daddy, stop", "Daddy, hurts". Its not fair that a 2 year old has to endure this!! We are hoping it gets better as the pin sites heal a bit more. Otherwise, it is going to be a long 3-5 months until the external fixator is removed.
We had our 2 week post operative appointment with Dr Paley and he is happy with Daniel's progress. The x-ray was pretty amazing, bits of metal everywhere. We have to send an x-ray via email to him every 4 weeks. We can have the fixator removed in the UK so we don't have to return provided all goes well until the first lengthening. The timing will depend on how the femur grows but will probably be between the age of 4 to 6 years of age.
Thank you to everyone's support during this time. Shane and I often say that one of the upsides of having a child that has to go on this journey is the love, kindness and support of family, friends and strangers that we have experienced along the way.
Enjoying the Florida sunshine post surgery with Mummy
The physios came around on the third day to get him out of bed into the stroller so he could play in the playroom and I took him for a couple of walks outside.
For the first few days when we got back home (hotel substituting for home), Daniel was pretty withdrawn, not like the Daniel we know. He spent most of the day in bed and we would take him in out in the pram to get out but he would just sit there quietly looking sad.
Over the next two weeks he started to improve and we started to see the old Daniel. He still had quite a bit of pain and could only be in one position for a short period of time before it started to hurt again. He also started to crawl a bit. We were lucky enough to meet another Australian in the park one day before the surgery who has two children of similar age. Daniel really enjoyed visiting them and playing with their toys - it was the best therapy and really helped to distract him from the pain. (Thanks Hayley, Finn and Avalon!)
We visited Quantum House on our last night. Quantum House is similar to Ronald McDonald House, a caring place to call home for families whose children are having hospital treatment where each night a different charity group cook dinner for all the residents. Daniel and Max really enjoyed playing in the playroom and we were able to meet some other children with fixators. We are hoping to stay there for some of the Daniel's first lengthening procedure.
The worst thing we have to do is the pin-site cleaning. Every day we have to clean the pin sites where the metal rods on the external fixator enter the skin to avoid pin site infections. Daniel has six pin sites. Shane (my hero) has taken on this job while I try to stop Daniel moving and calm him down. Bandages are wrapped around each pin site which have to be removed, the pin site cleaned (or scraped if there is dead material) and the bandages re-wrapped. Daniel sobs through the whole process, crying, "Daddy, stop", "Daddy, hurts". Its not fair that a 2 year old has to endure this!! We are hoping it gets better as the pin sites heal a bit more. Otherwise, it is going to be a long 3-5 months until the external fixator is removed.
We had our 2 week post operative appointment with Dr Paley and he is happy with Daniel's progress. The x-ray was pretty amazing, bits of metal everywhere. We have to send an x-ray via email to him every 4 weeks. We can have the fixator removed in the UK so we don't have to return provided all goes well until the first lengthening. The timing will depend on how the femur grows but will probably be between the age of 4 to 6 years of age.
Thank you to everyone's support during this time. Shane and I often say that one of the upsides of having a child that has to go on this journey is the love, kindness and support of family, friends and strangers that we have experienced along the way.
Enjoying the Florida sunshine post surgery with Mummy
Enjoying the Florida sunshine post surgery with Daddy
Posted By: Kristen (Daniel's Mum)
WHAT ABOUT MAX?
We can't forget Daniel's little brother Max. In the three weeks we spent in Florida, Max changed from an easy baby to an adventurous infant charming all those he meets. He has been the comic relief for all of us! Thanks Max.
We can't forget Daniel's little brother Max. In the three weeks we spent in Florida, Max changed from an easy baby to an adventurous infant charming all those he meets. He has been the comic relief for all of us! Thanks Max.
Update: I wrote this about 5 days ago and as I write tonight Daniel has improved quite a bit. He is experiencing a lot less pain and is a lot happier. Pin site cleaning has improved a bit too. Shane manages to do most of it in the shower while distracting him. He hasn't started walking yet but he is crawling about a lot more and jumping around on the sofas.
Posted By: Kristen (Daniel's Mum)
6 comments :
Hi Kristen - This is amazing - So glad Daniel is doing better and that you are all home safe and sound. I'm sure I can't begin to imagine what Shane and you and your families have been thru but it seems like no matter what came up, you just dealt with it and moved forward, such strength.
And speaking of strength, great job on Max's abs!!
With love,
Steph
We are so relieved that Dan's surgery went well and very proud of you, Kristen and Shane, in the way you have dealt with Daniel's condition since the day he was born. We are also very proud of Dan who is the light of our lives - along with little brother Max of course! Dan is a very brave little boy with a great spirit of determination, energy and a fabulous sense of fun.
Glad you are all over the first and biggest hurdle now and we are sure you will all cope well with each following step in Dan's journey.
love from Grandpa and Gran Budge
Hi Kristen, Shane, Daniel and Max,
It is difficult to know where to begin but I am so thankful that you have kept this record of Daniels progress since his birth.
Lucy was born on 12/1/10 with PFFD like you we didn't know anything was wrong until after our first cuddles.
I cried when I read how you felt on that long long night when Daniel was born. The things that ran through my head will stay with me forever. Leaving the hospital we agreed not to search the net as we had know idea what Lucy's condition was. We were given an appointment with a paediatrician for the following week who would explain scan and x rays. Fortunately my brother spent the first few days of Lucy's life researching what he thought might be Lucy's condition. I am so gratehful that he did. He told us he thought it might by PFFD and then told us about a inspirational little boy called Daniel. At this point I felt ready to look. On his phone he accessed Daniel's web site. He showed me photographs and reasuured me that Lucy would walk. Since knowing about Daniel and his journey so far I have been able to stay positive. Tonight I have read each entry, cried, smiled and laughed! (ice cream vid)
We look at Lucy and we wonder why this should happen to such tiny unknowing children, but we know that Lucy like Daniel has come to the right place with a loving family to support through the highs, lows and the bits in the middle.
Lucy will be four weeks old on Tuesday, I have a million questions whizzing through my head but feel that I have gained so much from reading about Daniel. Our hope is that we have your strength and determination as we embark on this unplanned journey! Holland seems like a positive place to be!
Sending our thoughts to you all as Daniel recovers from his surgery. Look forward to hearing how Daniel progresses over the coming weeks and months.
Sue & Rob
Thanks for the detailed account of Daniel's procedure. Now we have a better understanding of what has happened and what you all had to endure.
You must be so relieved that this part of it is over and that Dan is recovering well and becoming more used to the daily yucky site cleaning.
The photos are reassuring for us too, being so far away, as you all look gorgeous! I think Max is looking more like his big brother these days.
Looking forward to the next update.
Love Auntie Jenny XXXX
We laugh and we cry with you and for you and we love you!
Nan, Grandpop and Aunty Vicki & family.
I am happy he is doing well. You are very strong parents. At this time we are very worried about our fourth grandchild who will be born in just a few short weeks. On her ultrasound it looks like one of her femur bones is not growing like it should be. We don't know what we are facing but we pray in the end that she will be ok. If not I hope we can visit Dr. Paley also, we live in Florida.
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